Unless you’ve been through divorce and managed to survive it with all of your sanity intact you may not understand what I’m talking about. Some people think divorce is just a very cut and dry situation… you know, you just sign the papers and move on, right? Wrong! I will go so far as to compare it to having one of your limbs amputated. It’s uncomfortable, it hurts tremendously, you probably miss it at times, and you might even feel like less of a person…almost like something is missing. It takes a long while for your heart to heal and to be able to let something it once held so dear go.
Maybe for some it really is so simple as signing a few papers and moving on but I’m willing to bet that for most it’s not that easy. We’re all human, we all have feelings and that means that there is some kind of emotion left over. It’s normal to feel angry at someone who has hurt you. It’s normal to feel fear of a future without them. It’s also normal to have those moments of pure confusion. I can’t tell you how many times I would wake up, look around the room that was not my home and think, ” Oh God! It really DID happen”, and every day I’d feel that sinking in my heart but that feeling is actually the same feeling that motivated me to be the person I am now.
I tried to never let my children see me cry but at night when it was quiet and they were asleep all I could hear were the thoughts in my head and the tears would stream quietly down my face. There does come a point where you have no more tears left to cry and you do move on with life because it’s what you have to do.
When people say, “it just takes time”, they couldn’t be more right. It doesn’t mean you get over everything but over time you become stronger until the pain lessens to something that is much more tolerable and then one day you’re able to begin to accept everything.
If everything happens for a reason I’d like to believe that through divorce a woman finds herself. She becomes a stronger version of what she once was. She learns to rely only on herself and how to stand on her own two feet. She learns to show the world her smile even when the pain hurts really bad. She learns what truly matters in life and she becomes the person her children need her to be. She finds happiness all on her own and if she’s anything like me she is finally able to see that she’s so much more than that stupid boy ever made her think she was.
For those of you who know me you’ll realize that this is nothing new for me and you’ll smile and say, “what a dork!” For those of you that don’t, I hope to be a constant source of entertainment for you… trust me, I can laugh at myself and I do completely ridiculous things rather often.
This is one of those blog no-no’s but I actually have a completely legitimate reason for being gone since December and not blogging. My computer has been in the shop. Why, you ask? Because I, like a complete moron, thought I would just eat my dinner while writing on the computer. Obviously this whole idea didn’t go very well for me. I loaded up my plate with spaghetti went to sit down and the next thing I know my spaghetti is completely covering my laptop and every crevice on the keyboard that you don’t want spaghetti sauce in had spaghetti sauce in it. I still don’t know how it happened but it happened so fast I didn’t realize it’d happened until I sat down in spaghetti and realized my computer was also a victim of my klutziness.
I’m slightly ashamed to admit that I also cussed over the computer and cried over my favorite jeans. But now I’m back with a spaghetti-free computer and SO much to write about!
My children and I love to snuggle up on the couch, eat popcorn, and watch movies that are free of cussing, blood & gore, and nudity but good family friendly movies are such a rare find these days.
My children and I had the chance to watch Game of Your Life together and we all loved it. We loved the story line and enjoyed watching Zach’s journey through video game design school and all of the challenges he faces. I have no doubts that you and your children will enjoy this movie on your next family night. I personally love movies that teach my children valuable lessons… honesty, intregrity, reliability… all important things to instill into our children and this movie helps to do just that. The best part about this movie is that it’s premiering on television this Friday and with the holiday hustle and bustle this next few weeks this is the perfect time to just sit down, relax, and enjoy an evening with your family while watching a movie that is completely safe to watch with your kids.
Take a moment to watch the movie trailer for Game of Your Life:
I’m always thrilled to learn about new family movies for our family movie nights and I want to encourage all of you to sit down with your kids this Friday evening and watch the premiere of Game of Your Life December 2 on NBC at 8pm ET/7pm CT. Want to know more about Game of Your Life and Family Movie Night? Visit the Family Movie Night website and don’t forget to visit Family Movie Night on Facebook to stay up to date on all the family movie night premieres.
I wrote this review while participating in a campaign by Mom Central Consulting on behalf of P&G and received a promotional item to thank me for taking the time to participate.